Kinky Hoard Raises Important Question for Kinksters

A&E’s Hoarders recently had a man featured who ended up having his sisters find his hoard of kinky stuff. Of course, the women were appalled, and the therapist who was involved in the case apparently didn’t warn them appropriately when they did the inevitable leap into his piles of stuff to clean up his house and life. The following clip is making the rounds on Facebook.

Kevin's X-Rated Hoard

Oh, Kevin.

Posted by Hoarders on A&E on Thursday, February 11, 2016

Of course, this is a nightmare for many kinksters out there, particularly if they are not “out” to their family members. So, while it’s not likely that there are many out there that could end up in poor Kevin’s situation – their proclivities aired on cable television – it is possible for closeted lifestylers to end up with their stashes of toys ending up in the hands of people they would never want to see them. It’s human nature to not want to think about what happens if we end up incapacitated or dead, and while there are plenty of ways to deal with assets and life decisions legally, kink stuff isn’t typically on the checklist offered by the state or attorneys assisting people in creating living and last wills.

So, here is the ugly question you may not have considered: What happens to the “stuff” from my kinky lifestyle if I become incapacitated or when I die?

Now, your choices might be necessarily limited if you do not want to share the details of your lifestyle with family or friends at all. Options to be considered will probably involve either an attorney, or a legally appointed guardian or executor. What this person is called may vary based on your state and local laws, but effectively, this person is someone who would take care of the stuff you want to keep private from your family or other heirs by managing before anyone else gets access to your property. In most jurisdictions, it is also possible to keep the details of what this person would be doing private, even from attorneys or the court, in the form of sealed documents to be opened in the event of your death or inability to manage your own affairs.

No matter what, this is something you need to consider unless you honestly don’t care who knows what about your kinky stuff.

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